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Saturday, November 27, 2010
L or R brain
Thursday, November 25, 2010
thanksgiving 2010
Your Colorgenics Profile
| Name: | emily |
| Date: | Friday 26th 2010f November 2010 06:56:16 AM |
| Colorgenics Number: | 2/7/0/6/1/5/3/4/ |
You are trying to prove to others that nothing can really affect you. You are pretending to be stoical - indifferent to pain or pleasure and indeed even superior to any form of weakness. As a result, more often than not, you unfortunately act with undue harshness or severity by adopting an autocratic and self-willed attitude.
You seem to lack the energy of late to get up and go. Your objectives appear to be unattainable and no one seems to care. You feel lost, neglected and need some W.T.C. (Warm tender care).
You are a demanding egocentric and therefore quick to take offence. This attitude makes people feel somewhat inadequate when in your company and so it is no wonder that at times you feel alone and unwanted.
All of the stress and strains resulting from disappointment have led to agitation and anxiety. You have been going out of your way to make a good impression, but you have reservations as to the likelihood of succeeding. You feel that you have a right to accomplish all that you set your mind on but you have become helpless and distressed when circumstances have gone against you. The idea of failure is most upsetting and this can even mean utter dejection. You see yourself as a scapegoat and you feel everyone in your sphere of influence has tried to take undue advantage of you. You are trying to convince yourself that your failure to achieve standing and recognition is not of your making but indeed of those around you.
You are presently worried about your future and you feel that whatever you do will go wrong. At this time you are your own worst enemy. All the disappointment that you have experienced, coupled with the fear that there is no point in formulating fresh goals, have led to anxiety. You would like recognition and a position of trust but you are concerned that these hopes and dreams may not be realised. You are very argumentative and insistent that you are right - maybe you are - but you are pushing too hard. Take it easy, let go, and smile. Smiling and agreeing with people works wonders - try it and see.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
preston
Week 18It's awfully quiet in that crib. You may have been pleasantly surprised to find that your baby has been peacefully playing by herself for the past 10 to 15 minutes. Her eyesight is sharp now and her depth perception is also improving. She's very busy using her eyes and hands in play to learn about herself. Think about rotating her toys every so often--she doesn't need more than a few at a time.
Week 19Your baby's dad claims that he distinctly heard "daa daa." But, at 19 weeks, your baby doesn't mean anything by those sounds-he's simply putting consonants together with vowels. You can help him connect sounds with meanings by labeling things: point to pictures in his books, touch his eyes, nose and mouth while naming them. Before long, he'll be calling you both by name!
preston 4mos
Month 4
Senses: As a newborn, he would only respond to black and white and high-contrast colors. He can now distinguish all the shades of the rainbow.
Body: Your baby is starting to sit with the support of his hands or a pillow. He's also beginning to reach out for objects.
Brain: He's becoming more aware of his surroundings and connecting the sight of things with pleasure -- his mother's face with warmth, the breast or bottle with nourishment.
Communication Skills: Cries are now more deliberate. He may pause between sobs to see whether you're coming to the rescue. He may also cough or squeal to elicit a response.
Aww Factor: Your little one has started giggling, and all is good in your world.
Fave Toy: Bubbles! He'll get a kick out of watching them float through the air.
Playtime: Lay out a playmat or a blanket and scatter toys around. Get down on his level and encourage him to reach out and start rolling or inching toward them.
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#3
Shape Personality Type Profile
THE CIRCLE/SQUIGGLE COMBINATION
You are a rare person who is equally comfortable working alone and participating in teamwork projects.Your role on a team is twofold: you are the catalyst who encourages others to participate, and you are the idea person who loves to brainstorm. If a team is lucky enough to include you, they will both enjoy the experience and develop creative solutions to their problems.
Since you are primarily a right-brained thinker, you see the "big picture" and are more interested in "Why" than in "How". You are not detail-oriented; you are conceptual, creative, and intuitive. You are a change agent, not a maintainer. You get bored doing repetitive, routine work. You need variety in your work that allows you to "switch gears" often.
Your natural tendency is to be friendly and caring toward others, and you will always give others a second chance. However, when someone lets you down enough times, you finally will "write them off." You have particular difficulty with slow thinkers and those who will not make decisions without thorough analysis. (You must curb your natural dislike of Box people.) This is because you are bright, aquick-thinker and a very spontaneous person. When you see a solution, you want to run with it. Others seem to slow you down.
You are often disappointed in colleagues, but you try your best to disguise your feelings. You are an excellent communicator and you have the ability to motivate others to do their best. You are a natural born teacher and mentor. Under your tutelage, students will flower.
Talking straight...
At work: You bring sunshine into any workplace! You are well liked, positive, and have an almost childlike need for play and fun. However, you are very disorganized and have difficulty with deadlines and details. Your follow-up skills are non-existent. Your office looks like a hurricane hit it; papers are strewn all over the floor. You abhor paperwork, rules, and regulations. You are a knowledge worker, not an administrator.
At work: You bring sunshine into any workplace! You are well liked, positive, and have an almost childlike need for play and fun. However, you are very disorganized and have difficulty with deadlines and details. Your follow-up skills are non-existent. Your office looks like a hurricane hit it; papers are strewn all over the floor. You abhor paperwork, rules, and regulations. You are a knowledge worker, not an administrator.
You will have difficulty in a traditional management position and are best suited to high-level project team leadership. You are more aleader, than a manager. You like to make a mess and have someone else clean it up. You would thrive in an academic setting with bright colleagues and little administrative responsibility. You need to work on self-discipline and financial management.
At leisure: You need loving friends around you. You have strong social needs and enjoy being the "Life of the Party." You are the first one up on the stage at the Karaoke Bar. You are a born entertainer. Your sense of humour is excellent, but tends to the "weird" side. You sometimes embarrass your friends. In an ideal world, you would not have to work at all...you would just play all day.
Your hobbies are numerous, diverse, and constantly changing. You are not athletic (somewhat clumsy, in fact) and prefer group activities and mind games. You enjoy science fiction and your musical tastes run to the unusual, offbeat counter-culture groups. You love thetheatre. Your personal style is eccentric; you often wear clothing that doesn't match. You prefer large patterns and t-shirts with political commentary on the front. You like to make a statement.
Today's TIP!...
Set a personal goal to GET ORGANIZED! You're driving everyone crazy! Clean up your office, meet at least one deadline, and, then, invite everyone to party after work to celebrate what you accomplished today!
Set a personal goal to GET ORGANIZED! You're driving everyone crazy! Clean up your office, meet at least one deadline, and, then, invite everyone to party after work to celebrate what you accomplished today!
Want to know more about the other Shapes? Click on any of the other links on the left to view a description.
number 2
Shape Personality Type Profile
THE SQUIGGLE PERSON
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The SQUIGGLE PERSON is far from tidy. These individuals tend to be exceptionally creative, flamboyant, dramatic, and witty and, are the messiest and least-organised of all the Shapes. They can however, be very motivating people to be around.
Such people are surrounded by half-finished work and their desks are strewn with half-eaten food and old coffee cups. There are no family photos in the Squiggle's office and though to visitors their office may seem messy, to the Squiggle it is not because they usually know where most things are! If the Box person is chalk then the Squiggle is the proverbial cheese! Squiggles view themselves as beingunique and challenging the "status quo". Some may even go to extremes to illustrate this.
The Squiggle can never go anywhere without carrying a lot of things and are usually flustered, harassed and in a hurry. They rarely finish a task and struggle immensely with routine work. This is not surprising given the fact that Squiggles undergo constant change and that they are very easily bored, requiring constant stimulation in both a personal and a professional capacity.
Upon the desk of your typical Squiggle will be a sea of self-adhesive notes which quite often spill over onto the floor below. Thecreative Squiggle may have one picture adorning the wall behind their desk but they probably never give it a second glance. Similarly, the curious Squiggle may purchase books on the most modern and exciting topics yet, rarely read them!
Squiggles often use phrases such as "Paperwork is a waste of time!", "I've got the best idea of all!" and "I don't take NO for a answer!"They also tend to be bad listeners because they are so eager to share their ideas with others. This can lead to complaints and ill-feeling from friends and colleagues. Squiggles tend to be the "idea producers" in society which may be partially attributed to the fact that they fantasize a lot. When they get excited about a project they can become very intense about it. They can also be quite volatileand as a result, are not especially good team-workers and are not really enthused about people in general.
the Squiggle person could be mistaken for being permanently in mourning as they are invariably attired in black. Following their creative streak, the Squiggle person probably enjoys arty films in their spare time, possibly even having membership of a film club.
Due to their lack of focus, Squiggle shapes are very useful for a firm to have around but they will probably never make it very far up the ranks. They do however have a razor-sharp wit and are the life and soul of the party - great people to be around. They can however, be rather embarrassing at times and can be labeled as a 'weirdo' by those who do not understand them.
Squiggles may be the type of people who find their niche in Web-design and development, thus fully taking advantage of the creative facet of their nature.
Want to know more about the other Shapes? Click on any of the other links on the left to view a description.
http://www.psychometricshapes.co.uk/circle.php
http://www.psychometricshapes.co.uk/circle.php
The CIRCLE PERSON is a creature of comfort. Such individuals like to work comfortably and are often found with a cushion on their chair. It is quite possible that a Circle person would have a couch in their office as they prefer cushioned furniture to hard, wooden furniture.
Shape Personality Type Profile
THE CIRCLE PERSON
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The CIRCLE PERSON is a creature of comfort. Such individuals like to work comfortably and are often found with a cushion on their chair. It is quite possible that a Circle person would have a couch in their office as they prefer cushioned furniture to hard, wooden furniture.
Not quite as neat as the Box person, Circles usually have a little clutter and paperwork strewn on their desk and tend to carry a lotabout their person. It may also be necessary to clean up after the Circle at times.
Bright, warm colours are definitely in favour with the bold Circle, as is the presence of a healthy plant on their desk. Expect to seephotographs proudly adorning the desk of the doting Circle parent.
The Circle is definitely a socialite, enjoying a good social life both within and outwith the workplace. They have many friends, whom they invariably like to cook for, which may be because they are typically very caring and sensitive people. They also tend to join many clubs and are often placed in charge of the organisation's Christmas bash. Circles are no stranger to a good time and they tend to be"jolly, fun-loving people" who are at their happiest when those around them are enjoying themselves. In the eyes of a Circle, even their work colleagues are friends and they are more than willing to help them resolve problems if they possibly can, often using the phrase "No problem!"
Circles are very much focussed on the wellbeing of others and on maintaining harmony. They do not cope well with conflict and will often back down in the face of an argument. In general, Circles are good communicators who can listen and empathise well with others. They do however, prefer to talk to people on a one-to-one basis. Many of the helping professions are done by Circles for this reason. They can however be too accomodating at times which, can be damaging because sometimes they can be exploited. They can also be quite self-denigrating if things do not go quite as they had planned. Circles tend to act more as 'stabilisers' than leaders in the workplace.
Want to know more about the other Shapes? Click on any of the other links on the left to view a description.
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| OrangeYellow | 10 | Save Your Color Signature |
| Yellow | 9 | Save Your Color Signature |
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These are the top 40 careers (of 298) that match your color signature.
| 1. ENGLISH LANGUAGE | 40 |
| 2. JUNIOR HIGH / MIDDLE SCHOOL EDUCATION | 50 |
| 3. MEDICAL / SURGICAL ASSISTING | 50 |
| 4. RADIOLOGY / RADIOLOGIC TECHNOLOGY | 54 |
| 5. PHARMACY (pre-pharmacy) | 58 |
| 6. ELEMENTARY EDUCATION | 60 |
| 7. PRE - ELEMENTARY EDUCATION | 60 |
| 8. FRENCH LANGUAGE | 64 |
| 9. PRIVATE HOUSEHOLD WORKERS | 64 |
| 10. BUSINESS DATA PROCESSING / COMPUTER OPERATION | 64 |
| 11. POSTAL CLERKS AND MAIL CARRIERS | 66 |
| 12. BOOKKEEPERS AND ACCOUNTING CLERKS - financial recordkeepers | 66 |
| 13. CLINICAL LABORATORY TECHNOLOGISTS | 66 |
| 14. CHILD CARE AIDE / ASSISTING | 68 |
| 15. FILE CLERKS | 72 |
| 16. PHYSICIAN ASSISTING | 72 |
| 17. SPECIAL EDUCATION (e.g. learning disabled - gifted) | 72 |
| 18. BOOKKEEPING | 72 |
| 19. COUNTER AND RENTAL CLERKS | 74 |
| 20. TYPISTS AND WORD PROCESSORS | 74 |
| 21. CHILD CARE WORKERS | 74 |
| 22. TEACHER AIDE | 74 |
| 23. HUMAN SERVICE WORKERS | 74 |
| 24. VETERINARY ASSISTING | 78 |
| 25. WORD PROCESSING | 78 |
| 26. MEDICAL ASSISTANTS | 80 |
| 27. FOOD SCIENCES AND HUMAN NUTRITION / DIETETICS | 80 |
| 28. NURSING AIDES AND PSYCHIATRIC AIDES | 80 |
| 29. CRIMINAL JUSTICE / CRIMINOLOGY | 82 |
| 30. SPANISH LANGUAGE | 82 |
| 31. SPEECH PATHOLOGY / AUDIOLOGY | 84 |
| 32. MEDICAL RECORDS ADMINISTRATION / TECHNOLOGY | 84 |
| 33. CHILD DEVELOPMENT - care and guidance | 84 |
| 34. DENTAL HYGIENE | 84 |
| 35. STUDENT COUNSELING | 86 |
| 36. DATA ENTRY KEYERS | 88 |
| 37. PSYCHOLOGY - science that deals with mental processes and behavior. | 90 |
| 38. NURSING (registered and practical) | 90 |
| 39. SOCIOLOGY - The study of human social behavior. | 90 |
| 40. OCCUPATIONAL THERAPY / ASSISTING | 90 |
Monday, November 22, 2010
stu
ESTP Personal Growth
What does Success mean to an ESTP?
With a dominant function of Extraverted Sensing, and an auxiliary function of Introverted Thinking, people with the ESTP personality type have a heightened need for sensory experience and for tactile engagement with their physical environment. The ESTP is most comfortable when they can treat life as a big game in which they must be quick to use their skills in order to win. In such a game-playing scenario, the ESTP is most likely to be the winner, as no other personality type is as quick on their feet as the ESTP.
ESTPs have an amazingly ability to size up people in an instant and come up with an accurate ballpark understanding of where they are coming from. The ESTP cannot help using this skill, it is natural for them, but it brings them great satisfaction to be able to use this skill to enact some personal gain, or to “win the game.” The ESTP is also strongly driven to tangibly interact with their immediate physical environment. This need manifests itself in many ways, most commonly as an attraction to sports or physical challenges, and as a desire to always be doing something. ESTPs are the great Doers. If you want to make something happen quickly, ask an ESTP. These inherent skills make the ESTP likely to find success professionally as salespeople or professional athletes. However, any career that capitalizes on their people skills or their ability to maneuver within their physical world AND gives them immediate feedback is likely to be a good fit for the ESTP.
The ESTP’s need to be engaged with their immediate, external world makes success on a personal level more challenging. They feel happiest when they are outside of themselves, but personal success requires going within to get to know the self. However, once these needs are recognized, they are not mutually exclusive. The ESTP who feeds their constant drive for new sensory experiences as well as their need for real reflection upon those experiences and impressions will find a deeper level of personal satisfaction than the ESTP who allows his immediate needs for sensory experiences to yank him about.
However, even those ESTPs who have developed their ability to reflect on matters will always be connected at some base level to the strong desire for new experiences, and will get their “bread and butter” feelings of success from conquering challenges in their physical environment. ESTPs need to know they’ve got the goods, won the moment, done the job. Once given a task that intrigues them, or having discovered something new to be tried, very little will stop them from doing all they can to meet the challenge, and thereby achieve what they consider to be a personal success. Success to an ESTP is usually not measured in ongoing terms, but in transient moments of achievement, moments which bring the ESTP the needed feeling of having won the day.
Allowing Your ESTP Strengths to Flourish
As an ESTP, you have gifts that are specific to your personality type that aren't natural strengths for other types. By recognizing your special gifts and encouraging their growth and development, you will more readily see your place in the world, and be more content with your role.
Nearly all ESTPs will recognize the following characteristics in themselves. They should embrace and nourish these strengths:
· A great talent for reading people and knowing “where they’re at” by just watching their behavior and mannerisms.
· The ability to draw upon an extremely detailed and ready knowledge of the physical world around them at a moment’s notice.
· A competitive flair which drives them to win out in difficult situations. ESTPs love to have the odds stacked against them, which makes them great troubleshooters or the type of salespeople who can cold canvass a winning deal from the hardest client.
· A mental toughness which makes them extremely hard to beat. In any contest, the ESTP will almost always be the last man standing.
· A strong, “get after it” mentality that causes them to get things done.
ESTPs who have developed their Introverted Thinking to the extent that they consider what their perceptions mean to them and discriminate carefully between the options available rather than simply flowing with the process of the moment, will enjoy these very special gifts:
· The ability to recognize when others are uncomfortable or in trouble and deal with their problems.
· The ability to realize that there is value in meeting other people’s needs in a real way.
· An understanding that other people may have a different perspective on life, and that other perspectives may be useful and valid.
· An ability to make the most of their winning capabilities over a long term.
· A special talent for showing others how to make the most of situations. Such ESTPs can be extraordinary teachers of positive life skills.
· A knack for showing not only how certain things can be done, but how they can be done in a far more valuable or efficient way. Such ESTPs are an asset to any company involved in manufacturing.
· A skill for understanding the behavior of people and predicting patterns. ESTPs can make very good detectives or analysts.
Potential Problem Areas
With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without "bad", there would be no "good". Without "difficult", there would be no "easy". We value our strengths, but we often curse or simply ignore our weaknesses. To grow as a person and get what we want out of life, we must certainly exploit our strengths, but we must also face our weaknesses and deal with them. That means taking a hard look at the potential problem areas in our personality type.
It is important to realize that type weaknesses are just the blind spots behind our stronger character traits, and that the more undesirable characteristics specific to a type are usually limited to those people whose type is heavily expressed, and then only if circumstances have combined to narrow or circumvent that person’s natural development. So in reading what follows, it is worth remembering that, in describing these typical tendencies and the negative patterns of behavior which can flow from them, we are building an understanding for positive development. Every person is differently made, and we must always remember that these so called “weaknesses” are the unavoidable, understandable and natural characteristics of our type.
Most of the weaker characteristics found in ESTPs result from Extraverted Sensing dominating their personality and co-opting the usefulness of their other functions, whilst some other difficulties stem directly from the ESTP’s inability to use their less adapted functions of Extraverted Feeling and Introverted Intuition. Either singly or in combination, these ESTP traits cause most or all of the following weaknesses in varying degrees:
· Can become morose or even antagonistic in situations offering little promise of advantage or the possibility to “do something.”
· May be manipulative, taking advantage of other people’s weaknesses for their own gain.
· May be unwilling or unable to plan anything in advance themselves, or to follow other’s careful plans.
· Can be overconfident of their own cunning or ability, ignoring problems which eventually catch up with them on their blind side.
· May find it difficult or be actually unwilling to follow through where an ongoing commitment is expected.
· In relationship situations may be overbearing, demanding and/or uncaring of the feelings of their partner.
· When alone or in reduced circumstances may be subject to dark or morbid feelings about themselves.
· May be unable to maintain employment for any length of time, losing credibility with potential employers or clients by job hopping.
· May become so engrossed in challenging activities that they lose all sense of proportion, neglecting themselves and their relationships.
· Without challenges of their own, may become focused on the behavior of others, particularly that of family or employees, insisting that they live up to what the ESTP sees as the proper code or level of accomplishment.
Explanation of Problems
Because the ESTP is driven to experience the world through concrete sensation, their need for sensual experience combines with the possibilities of the moment to provide everything they feel is necessary to life. Using Introverted Thinking only to justify or enhance their sensual needs, the ESTP can easily flow with the world in a reckless manner, their own behavior mapped and justified by a ruling grid locked only to the objective action of the moment. Many of the difficulties described above flow from this common ESTP trait of attending only to the world and the people around them for the sake of satisfying their constant need for fresh experiences and new conquests. For the ESTP who lacks the support of a well adapted rational, judging function, the objective world remains an endlessly fascinating playground, where the constantly changing rules of the game often provide the only real codes of conduct they live by.
Without a well developed Introverted Thinking function enabling the ESTP to reflect upon the consequences of their actions and desires, the feelings and needs of others can seem of little concern to them. Often, those who cannot match the ESTP round for round are considered persons of little consequence, or valued only as useful pawns in an endless game of one-upmanship where the gratification of the ESTPs needs is the only object. In addition to this, because Feeling is the ESTP’s tertiary function, its judgments tend to be colored by the unconscious background, which means that it is often used negatively. In responding to the ESTP’s sense driven thinking assessments, such a feeling function plays down empathy and enhances the maintenance of negative feelings about others, particularly when they do not “go along” with the ESTP’sprimary function driven ways and needs.
Under such conditions the strongly expressing ESTP, whose auxiliary Introverted Thinking function serves only to make biased, supportive, “correct” judgments about their own behavior, will often “stand outside the circle”, their biased judgments reducing others to a mere audience, expected to support the ESTPs notions without question. In relationships this can be a danger, for it means the ESTP will rarely accede to the feeling based demands of others, nor give credit to those ideas which arise from an intuitive outlook on life. Their behavior in this regard often borders on outright contempt or a sullen refusal to accept anything outside their own purview.
Such strongly expressing ESTPs can sometimes find themselves without any truly close relationships, for their behavior often provides a strong signal to others, who sense that “here be dragons”, and consequently offer as little as possible of their personal feelings or worldly knowledge as grist to the ESTPs one-upmanship mill. Under these circumstances, whilst the ESTP may have lots of acquaintances and partners in fun, there will be very few who will befriend them at any truly supportive, emotional level.
Apart from the reasons given above, some narrowly expressing ESTPs can sometimes find themselves isolated because of the unusual things they believe about people and the world - particularly in regard to the reasons they believe certain things happen. The ESTP is extremely familiar with the workings of the immediate, rational world of the senses, but because their Intuition is a virtually unconscious function, their ideas about things outside their ken can quite often be extraordinarily quaint, superstitious or just downright bizarre, and their thinking can weave some amazing logic to support these beliefs. This rarely affects their day to day life, for these ideas and superstitions quite often support their keenness and abilities, but in a situation where truly intuitive or theoretical notions are considered relevant and important, the ESTP can find themself very much the odd man out.
Of all the personality types, the strongly expressing ESTP can be the hardest to convince that their world view is not the only valid one; that it does not necessarily spring from the best and only way to be; that everyone else in the world who is “normal” does not approach life in the same way as the ESTP.
Solutions
To grow as an individual, the ESTP needs to focus on freeing their thinking from the control of Extraverted Sensing and allow themself the space to make careful, rational judgments. Not only about the immediate, external situation, but also about the ways in which it can be managed to create a more valuable, long term result. The ESTP’scapacity to do this is innate; it hides just beneath the surface and takes only a few deliberate moments to allow it to work. All the ESTP needs to do is to recognize the difference between thinking with the moment, with the subject of their immediate sense impressions, and the thinking they do when nothing else grasps their attention. The ESTP needs to recognize that the second kind of thinking, this “alone with self” space, is full of potential for careful judgment of their actions and consideration of the best course for the future. Introverted Thinking is in truth the ESTP secret weapon. It is Introverted Thinking working in the background of their life which makes the ESTP such a potent personality. Bringing it into the foreground, allowing its power to be no longer a secret to them is the key to ESTP development.
I want to offer the ESTP some specific suggestions and advice here, for bringing the value of introspection into focus it isn’t just a matter of flipping a switch in the head. One of the reasons for this is that, when uncoupled from the fascinations of the outer world and reality, the ESTP’s Introverted Thinking tends to get caught up in the negative judgments and images which flow from their feeling and intuitive functions; all too easily falling into a cloudy, uncertain world of anxieties and sinister implications. The ESTP’s inner space needs to be cleared of this often childish and ill-informed miasma of negativity. So it is necessary to reassure yourself, to calmly and decisively insist upon quiet in your inner mind, and have faith that all concerns will be taken care of by the “adult of the household” (the mature version of Introverted Thinking.)
Turning off the world and getting into your own space can be difficult at the beginning, but it provides the greatest rewards. For the ESTP doesn’t need to learn how to think, they already do it extremely well – they just need to turn their thinking upon themselves. They need to measure and evaluate their usefulness, their actions, their relationships in ways that look for quality, and in ways to offer value to all things and people in their lives.
Challenge yourself. Challenges are simple stuff for the ESTP, and all it really takes is a few moments of reflection each day. Ask yourself regularly: “What am I doing? Why am I doing it? Who benefits from it?” Ask these questions in every type of situation, and discover how the answers begin showing a path toward not only greater understanding of self and others, but also show ways to include others in a relationship with your whole self. Soon you will discover your feelings and intuitions coming on board with a more positive and inclusive force. Growing yourself soon becomes easy, because it just takes the simple routine of letting your innate power of considered thought work upon your own life, rather than only using it to support what’s going on outside. Think about it. J
Living Happily in our World as an ESTP
ESTPs usually have a strong group of supporters, both at work and socially. They are often popular, their appeal is magnetic and they attract those who would like to do the things they can do. The problems the ESTP has fitting into the world tend to be related to the flip side of this attractive and challenging exterior, for the deeper and more intimate side of people tends to avoid them, just as the ESTP tends to avoid the deeper connections. ESTPs have no trouble attracting lovers and admirers, they simply have trouble keeping them, for once relationships begin to demand constancy and deep, feeling based connections, the ESTP is often left wondering what the fuss was about. Their inadequacy in this regard can often make others feel they are lacking any real feelings or desire for commitment, whilst the truth is that they simply do not know the path to such things without a long and difficult learning period. They are more frightened of feelings rather than unable to feel, they are more timid of commitment rather than unable to commit. In relationships the ESTP needs reassurance, but all too often their needs are unspoken and interpreted as inabilities.
Specific Suggestions:
· Ask yourself what you want from a long term relationship. Now turn this around and see how your requirements compare with others. Are you being realistic? Have you forgotten to include the needs of others in your ideal relationship? Are you afraid of the things you need to offer, or are you just afraid that in offering them you will lose something?
· Always remember, that a relationship which adds to your personal skills and life is a valuable one, while a relationship which limits your ability to be yourself is not going to work. Now try to see how your own demands and needs might add to another, and what they might take away from them.
· Don’t be afraid of letting your feelings show, even if they frighten you for their weakness or showing your own vulnerability. More often than not, such honesty is the beginning of the kind of relationship that can lead you to grow.
· Your best partner is going to be the one who fills your private space, your thinking space, as well as your senses. Try to talk to others about what you think. Discover yourself in your thoughts and let relationships grow through your letting the other person into your inner world. Discuss your fears and limits and discover the strength available to you from the support of another who may have what you need.
Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve ESTP Success
1. Feed Your Strengths! Give yourself every opportunity to show your innate skills. If you are not in a relationship or a job which allows this to happen, it might be time to discover ways to change this. Remember, your strengths derive from being able to deal with the world, with situations where getting things done, where opportunities to surmount difficulty exist.
2. Face Your Weaknesses. Try to be straight up with yourself. You have limitations others find as strengths. So what? You don’t have to hide behind a curtain of fear just because you have difficulty with feelings or sorting out your inner perceptions. Allow yourself to be who you are and at the same time let others help you be more honest with your limitations.
3. Talk About Your Thoughts. Discussing your ideas and perceptions with others will help you to develop your separate, inner reality, make you a “real” person to them even without all that external activity. How well you use your auxiliary function is very important to your overall health and happiness.
4. Don't Be Afraid to Show Emotion. Your inferior functions want you to be still a child inside, and that makes you run, that makes you want to prove yourself even more. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone in this regard. Everyone feel emotion and everyone is a little child inside. Find those people whose eyes tell you that you are not alone, and let them hear your child’s voice.
5. Respect Your Need for Action. Understand that you need to be actively working with your environment to be "in the groove" with life. Don't chastise yourself for not being the sort to sit around and read a book or watch a movie. Choose a partner and companions who value active lifestyles, but remember to allow yourself time out to consider how their input into your life will change it. Don’t just follow your nose – life is not an endless party or expedition.
6. Recognize the Differences in Others. Realize that everyone is different, not just a little different, but very different. Everyone has their place and value. You need to notice those values and places, places where you cannot easily fit. You can learn from these people, for they have gifts you can use, gifts they offer simply by being who they are. Try figuring out their psychological type for yourself and notice how certain types can lift you out of negative feelings just by being who they are
7. It's OK to Get Out of your Comfort Zone. Understand that the only way to grow is to get outside of your comfort zone. If you're uncomfortable with an idea or situation because you're not sure how to act, that's good! That's an opportunity for growth.
8. Identify and Express Your Feelings. You may have a hard time figuring out exactly how you feel about someone that you're involved with. It's important that you do figure this out. Don't lead someone on with your ambivalence. If you determine that you value the person, tell them so every time you think of it. This is the best way to make them feel secure in your affections, and so to promote a long-lasting relationship.
9. Be Aware that You can Fail, and that it is OK. Not every mountain can be climbed, not every customer will be satisfied, no matter how hard you try or no matter what tricks you bring to bear. Getting beaten is an opportunity to reflect upon what is important, what really matters in life. Next time you will take up a challenge more worthy of your skills, and more valuable to others. You can be a champion, and it will be at your own game. Try to let it be a game of life, where everyone wins if you do.
10. Assume the Best. Don't distress yourself with fear and dark imaginings. Expect the best, and the best will come.
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